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Before we had our son, he always rolled his eyes when people said stay-at-home parenting was hard. \u201cHow hard can it be? Feed the baby, clean, nap when they nap.\u201d I remember how proud he was of his \u2018logic\u2019, how superior he felt knowing exactly how it all worked. We used to laugh about it, but a part of me always bristled. Then our son arrived. The fog of sleep deprivation hit me like a physical blow. Twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week, my body felt like a perpetual milk machine, my mind a ceaseless monitor. There was no \u201cnap when they nap\u201d when the laundry piled up, when the dishes waited, when the minute the baby closed his eyes, my body screamed for a shower that I knew wouldn\u2019t happen.<\/p>\n

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The days blurred into one long, exhausting hum. The only company was a tiny, demanding human who couldn\u2019t communicate beyond cries. The isolation was a physical ache. I\u2019d spend hours staring at the walls, craving adult conversation, craving silence, craving a moment where I wasn\u2019t responsible for another breathing soul.<\/p>\n

He\u2019d come home from work, sigh at the messy living room, ask about dinner. \u201cRough day?\u201d he\u2019d say, but it wasn\u2019t a question. It was a judgment. I\u2019d try to explain, my voice thin with fatigue, but he\u2019d cut me off. \u201cJust nap when he naps, it\u2019s not rocket science.\u201d Each word was a tiny hammer blow to my already shattered spirit. Did he even see me? Did he see the desperation in my eyes, the tremor in my hands?<\/p>\n

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The arguments started, or rather, my whispered pleas met his defensive walls. I tried to explain the loneliness, the endlessness, the way my identity had dissolved into motherhood. He\u2019d retreat to his phone, or his video games. \u201cYou don\u2019t understand how stressful my job is,\u201d he\u2019d counter. Then he started staying out later. \u201cWork,\u201d he\u2019d say. \u201cDeadline.\u201d<\/p>\n

A cold dread began to bloom in the pit of my stomach. He\u2019d smell different sometimes. A sweet, unfamiliar scent, quickly masked by his aftershave. His phone became a sacred object, always face down, always muted. My gut screamed, but I buried it under another layer of exhaustion and self-doubt. Maybe I was just crazy. Maybe I was the problem.<\/p>\n

One night, he \u201cworked late\u201d again. Our son was finally asleep after an hour of relentless crying. The house was silent, too silent. My hands trembled as I picked up his phone. I knew his password. My heart was POUNDING, a frantic drum against my ribs. I went straight to the gallery, searching for\u2026 I didn\u2019t know what.<\/p>\n

And there it was. Not messages with another woman. Worse. A picture. A bright, colourful birthday cake with five candles. His arm was around a beautiful woman I didn\u2019t know, and between them, a little girl, maybe five or six, beaming up at him. The caption, from the woman\u2019s account, simple and devastating: \u201cBest dad ever. So lucky to have you.\u201d MY GOD. A whole other life. He wasn\u2019t tired because of our life. He was tired from living TWO of them. And \u201cnap when they nap\u201d? He was probably \u201cnapping\u201d in a different bed, with a different family, where he wasn\u2019t the tired, burdened father, but someone else\u2019s hero.<\/p>\n

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